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For Crying Out Love
Transform Suffering Through Gospel Stories, Prayer, and Love
Through its stories of abiding Love amidst ongoing challenges, For Crying Out Love offers comfort and inspiration. These stories reflect a loving approach to prayer that is natural to use when facing the pain of those you care about, as well as your own pain.
Written especially for those who have suffered over long periods, this book speaks to difficult relationships, long-term physical or emotional illness, injustice, and the enduring consequences of tragedy.
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Welcome, for crying out love!
I’m Tim Kochems. Like its title, this site holds joy, cries of frustration, despair, and anger, and exclamations of gratefulness and awe. It holds stories and reflections, images and poetry, hopefully some from you the reader. It is home for experience-near responses to our recurring suffering, the love we give and receive, and Love that holds and companions all.
Here’s a personal story related to the title
My mother died early in 2025 after almost four years of decline. Not long before she died, she cried out for help. A caregiver answered and soothed her. Later, my mother asked that woman, “Are you Jesus?”
I think my mother got it right. It is very hard to distinguish God or Jesus or Love from the caring love we experience every day. It certainly looks to me like my mother naturally cried to Love for love. Love was present, waiting, and responded with love. And my mother recognized her.
Meet Tim
I am grateful for over 40 years working in psychotherapy with adult individuals and couples. Before retiring as a clinical psychologist, I practiced and taught psychoanalysis and psychoanalytic psychotherapy, utilized Internal Family Systems, and I companioned people in spiritual direction. In addition to a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, I earned a pastoral ministry certificate. And now I’m being called to more…
Love holds and transforms suffering like music holds any note, any chord, any rhythm, and even silence. Love, like music, is all about relationship.
– Tim Kochems
Reflections
Tim’s written and video reflections on love, suffering, and spirit.
Creations
Tim’s poetry and photos evoking love, suffering, and spirit.
Inspirations
Contributions of others on love, suffering, and spirit.
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