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A Personal Welcome

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Empathy Leads to Justice

On February 3, 2026, Ms. Marimar Martinez bravely, strongly told her story of being shot 5 times by an ICE agent. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qUV9AiMfrs0 Empathy …care …resistance …attunement …justice. The path might be short, but often it is long and challenging. It is heartbreaking and hopeful. It is effective.     One might start out by physically helping…

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Truth and Reality Are Relationships

A brief reflection honoring the ongoing spirit of Martin Luther King Jr., January 19, 2026 “A genuine revolution of values means…. Every nation must now develop an overriding loyalty to mankind as a whole…. This call for a worldwide fellowship that lifts neighborly concern beyond one’s tribe, race, class and nation is in reality a…

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Waiting with Suffering

Plus: A preview of my coming book For Crying Out Love: Transform Suffering Through Gospel Stories, Prayer, and Love Here in the northern hemisphere, we are in the season of waiting, the season of darkness and cold waiting for more light and warmth. It could last a total of six months — longer in some…

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Pilgrimage Blessings

Our recent photo of “The Freedom Window for Alabama” (1964) in the 16th St. Baptist Church in Birmingham, AL by John Betts (1914-1991). It’s all so countercultural: Once again I’ve experienced how sharing pain and empathy for unjust suffering is a blessing. Enduring painful truths together fosters and strengthens hope. Mutually experiencing sadness, frustrations, and…

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Will you pray with me for ICE workers?

Will you pray with me for the U.S. Immigration Customs and Enforcement workers: the agents in the streets, the administrators, and the guards? And, for any other federal or state employees who assist ICE workers. Those workers are all individual humans like our brothers and sisters who are immigrants, worthy of no more or less…

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How Do You Notice and Respond to Shadows?

The damage being done to our democracy and the institutions supporting our constitution is being done in broad daylight as well as at night. Many good people are trying to survive as best they can in the shadows and on the edges even as institutionalized violence against them is becoming commonplace. Let us remember and…

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The Bell Tolls for Thee

(see John Donne’s “Meditation XVII” in the Inspirations section) Praying With Our Immigrants Like you, I am involved with humankind. For months now, when I wake in the middle of the night, I am likely to be anxious for an hour or more going through frightening scenarios for our country and my friends. I also…

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Gratitude

Early this summer, we were in Dallas, TX for a small family reunion.  For Crying Out Love, even in the heat of summer it was a time to be grateful.  It deepened relationships and was great fun. Synchronicitously, we also discovered a Dallas wonder that a number of its citizens whom we met did not know about:…

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Have you experienced an imaginative creative process that is responsive and loving?

Isn’t this a stunning photograph? For crying out love! It stopped me in my tracks when I first saw it full size in the home of friends.

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Paths of Transformation: Part 1

Has great love been a path for your own transformation? Great love and great suffering are universal paths to transformation That gem of wisdom is the guiding light for all the content on my website. It comes from Richard Rohr, a Franciscan Catholic priest, whose writing is a valuable gift to us all. As you…

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Paths of Transformation: Part 2

Has great suffering been a path for your own transformation? Great love and great suffering are universal paths to transformation While our tendency with suffering is to draw inward and isolate for protection, the experience of great suffering can often be transforming. The easiest way to see this is to notice our heartfelt empathic reaction of…

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Can you distinguish Love from love?

Many years ago, an old friend, a Catholic nun from Australia, told me the story of how she was asked by a man whom she had just met questions like these: How do you know there’s a God? Have you experienced God? What is God? Who? and Where?  If you were asked these questions, what…

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Is this prayer?

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